In Search of Rubies


World says:
Be angry.

Wisdom says:
Be angry. You have a right to be.

World says:
Get on Facebook and declare your innocence.

Wisdom says:
Don’t be ridiculous in your reaction. It is a waste of time.

World says:
Complain. Tell everyone about how cruel people can be.

Wisdom says:
Again, waste of time. Besides, you have been cruel at times.

World says:
Think about how you can get them back. Nothing physically harmful, of course.

Wisdom says:
Don’t you have something better to do with your time? Do you want to be immature and follow that path or do you want to focus on something better?

World says:
Want to get revenge? It’ll feel great.

Wisdom says:
Want to do something fruitful today?


I could listen to World and gain a temporary feeling of satisfaction.

I could listen to Wisdom and gain a few steps on the road that is lined with fulfilling, fruit-producing relationships and all that is good. I could walk on a road where I am not run down or run over, with a God-respecting, people-loving attitude that deflects drama and all the junk that comes with it.

The latter sounds like the road I want to be on.

It’s not far away. That little voice in the back of my mind is trying to guide me there. But it’s narrow, it’s different. I feel resistance when I search for it because I’m so used to this other path.

Wisdom isn’t far, but I’ve distanced myself from it with my daily choices.


Before you assume I’m going to paint a picture of a gray haired man with a turned up nose talking over his glasses about abiding by rules and avoiding anything that involves fun, hear me out. I think there’s a more attractive picture to be found.

Proverbs tells us that “wisdom is more precious than rubies, and nothing you desire can compare with” it.

So add gold and beautiful jems to the road I was talking about.

If that’s the case, why don’t I want it more? Look for it more? Recognize it more? Talk about it more? Ask for it more?

God WANTS us to ask for it. Take for instance Solomon. God told him he could ask for whatever he wanted. He asks for “a discerning heart to govern your people and to distinguish between right and wrong.”

God’s response?

“Since you have asked for this and not for long life or wealth for yourself, nor have asked for the death of your enemies but for discernment in administering justice, I will do what you have asked. I will give you a wise and discerning heart, so that there will never have been anyone like you, nor will there ever be. MOREVER, I will give you what you have not asked for—both riches and honor—so that in your lifetime you will have no equal among kings.” Solomon went on to be one of the wisest to ever live.

Of course we shouldn’t ask for wisdom for the purpose of gaining wealth and honor. That’s not the point. The point is that God is more than willing to show you how to get to that beautiful road. The bigger point—you have to WANT it. Then you have to LOOK for it.

James tells us that we should be “mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” Without finding fault—no matter the road we’ve been on because of decisions we’ve made in the past.

Proverbs 2 tells us that if we “look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.”

Why does it even matter? Why do I want more wisdom?

“Wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.”

“BLESSED in the man who finds wisdom, for the man who gains understanding, for she is more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold. She is more precious than rubies…Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who embrace her; those who lay hold of her will be blessed.”

With regards to my opening dilemma, Wisdom tells me this:

“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” James 3:13-17

It’s not easy, but the narrow road is the one I want to be on. Each little step either keeps me there or leads me to the ugly road full of junk that will leave me void of everything good and instead filled with hate.

Wisdom can also be acquired by learning from other wise people. Here are some wise words from author Lysa Terkeurst:

“The one who obeys God’s instruction for today will develop a keen awareness of His direction for tomorrow.”
“Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.”

She has many more wise words in her book “The Best Yes.” Be on the lookout for my upcoming review of this book!

In the meantime, tell me…how do you gain wisdom? Where have you seen it?

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  1. I love this Kristin! I knew you were writing a blog in your head when you took that picture of Mason all while you were pushing a stroller and running!!! Lord, please fill me up to over flowing with the God kind of wisdom 😉

  2. I love the picture you used! Since I’m a visual learner, this will stick with me when I’m considering travelling the broader, easier road. Instead I’ll think of this picture and realize it’s a choice.
    I want this wisdom too Kristin! In my experence, I have gotten wisdom by observing those people with unquestionable character that only speak uplifting words or the truth without malice. And when I think back on some of those people, they didn’t talk a lot, but when they did, I listened.
    Great blog! Thank you for challenging me AGAIN!

  3. Wow this is great. You don’t know me but I met Mary and Laura through Kenny Nechochea. They are sweet people. Anyway I love reading your writings and am in a tough place right now. The story of Solomon brought me to tears. You must be a wonderful mother among your other talents. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Thank you so much Sarah! I’m glad you enjoyed the Solomon story as much as I do. I forget to ask for wisdom like he did, and I’m trying to remember to do that. Whatever you are going through, just remember that you aren’t alone and that you WILL come through it a stronger person with more to give the world..just keep looking to Him.

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